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Fire is considered a Hindu Devta (God), in an Indian wedding, the couple is made to walk around the fire seven times, this process is called taking the “saat phere”. During these pheras, the couple makes 7 promises to one another in the presence of God (Fire) and thereby pledge themselves to each other.
The significance of 7 PROMISES that the couple makes to each other while going around the sacred fire 7 times during Hindu Weddings.
First Phera (Round)
Groom: You will offer me food and be helpful in every way. I will cherish you and provide welfare and happiness for you and our children.
Bride: I am responsible for the home and all household responsibilities.
Groom: Together we will protect our house and children.
Bride: I will be by your side as your courage and strength. I will rejoice in your happiness. In return, you will love me solely.
Groom: May we grow wealthy and prosperous and strive for the education of our children. May our children live a long life.
Bride: I will love you solely for the rest of my life, as you are my husband. Every other man in my life will be secondary. I vow to remain chaste.
Groom: You have brought sacredness into my life, and have completed me. May we be blessed with noble and obedient children.
Bride: I will shower you with joy, from head to toe. I will strive to please you in every way I can.
Groom: You are my best friend and staunchest well-wisher. You have come into my life, enriching it. God bless you.
Bride: I promise to love and cherish you for as long as I live. Your happiness is my happiness, and your sorrow is my sorrow. I will trust and honour you, and will strive to fulfil all your wishes.
Groom: May you be filled with joy and peace.
Bride: I will always be by your side.
Groom: We are now husband and wife, and are one. You are mine and I am yours for eternity.
Bride: As God is the witness, I am now your wife. We will love, honor and cherish each other forever.
Having recited the Seven Vows the couple then takes a common vow after the Saat Pheras.
“Now let us make a vow together. We shall share love, share the same food, share our strengths, and share the same tastes. We shall be of one mind; observe the vows together. I shall be the Samaveda, you the Rigveda, I shall be the Upper World, you the Earth; I shall be the Sukhilam, you the Holder – together we shall live and beget children and other riches”.
The holy fire is the witness to the promises the bride and groom make to each other and these seven vows form the crux of a good marriage.