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Did you know, light of love depends on these 4 important conditions?
Light of love depends on these 4 important conditions — Respect, Care, Compassion and Appreciation. Fail one condition and it flickers, fail two and it goes away.
Respect your spouse: When you marry and start staying together, there will be trying times, difficult days. Especially, during such times when you disagree with each other, it’s critical that you don’t shout at your spouse. For your own good respect each other. Self-esteem, self-respect, or even ego is linked to the most innate human aspect of self-preservation. Respect is not limited to just respecting the other person, but their values too.
Care: Being available for your spouse in their times of need is real care. Love isn’t just about paying the bills. Care in action is far more important than care in words.
Compassion: When you don’t agree with your spouse and even if you don’t understand their perspective; learn to be kind towards them and their mistakes. Consciously avoid holding them hostage to your own self-perceived sense of superiority or perfection. We are often compassionate towards our own mistakes. However, having a compassion for the other person heals love.
Appreciation: When you appreciate, it makes the other person feel valued, it makes them fill loved, feel important. Whenever you see good in the other person, express it, appreciate it and they would automatically want to do more good. Often, love is confused for an emotion; for madly wanting someone, or being badly wanted by the other person.
However, lasting love is always mutual. You can’t love someone out of pity or obligation. It’s true that in the initial stages, love is a strong feeling and then a strong desire. Thereafter, it’s an act; not the act of making love, but the act of loving. It requires some efforts from both sides.